By Dr. David G. Benner, Ph.D., C.Psych.
First, two observations:
1 A small percentage of people who come for psychotherapy sometimes get worse. A small percentage who come for help in counselling or therapy and are depressed (ie, have emotional wounds) sometimes leave feeling better about themselves, but they’re angry or obnoxious.
Therapists sometimes confuse expressing anger with releasing anger. What is needed for emotional healing is the release of anger. Expression of anger is a part of that, but the real challenge is expression moving us towards the end of release. Forgiveness is that mechanism of releasing anger.
2 We may have a feeling of being quite incapable of forgiving a person and being quite angry with ourselves for having so much trouble with it. We feel we should be able to forgive. We can read all the books on a subject and know what has to be done, but never have the experience of actually forgiving someone who we feel caused us a past hurt.
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