Who else wants to know how to recover from adultery? In Module 11 we help you deal with infidelity. What we will show you will literally turn around your ability to deal with your reactions to the discovery… where you take control and understand your emotions!! Imagine being able to calm yourself down. Wouldn’t that [...]
Lesson 72: Infidelity – The Discovery
Infidelity – Will I Ever Recover From The Pain? When you first find out that your partner has been unfaithful you feel shocked and devastated. You wonder if you will ever recover from the pain.
Lesson 73: Infidelity – Trauma Reactions
The Hideous Feelings Of Trauma Can Last Between 1 – 8 Weeks Initially your response to finding out about infidelity is quite physical – you tremble, feel nauseous, and cannot sleep. You have little appetite.
Lesson 74: Infidelity – Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
The Difficulty Is In Staying Together During Weeks Of Uncertainty After discovering that your partner has been unfaithful, the impulsive thought is to pack your bags and leave. But then in anger you question, why should you suffer the loss of leaving?
Lesson 75: Infidelity – Delay The Decision
Be Prepared To Answer Many Questions Patiently And Truthfully With infidelity there can be two distinct feelings – one of being betrayed (the act of unfaithfulness) and the other of being deceived (of being lied to).
Lesson 76: Suspicion – The Sandcastle
Rebuild Your Sandcastle With Firm Wet Sand Dr Rosie King (1997) says that the building of trust early in a relationship is similar to building a sandcastle. Imagine a sandcastle and picture a couple working together to build such a sandcastle early in their relationship. They’re doing things together, and they trust one another.
Lesson 77: Suspicion – Decision To Trust
To Rebuild Trust You Must Choose To Believe Your Partner Once betrayed, you will never again be without suspicion. Betrayal not only destroys trust, it also damages the ability to build trust.
Lesson 78: Suspicion – His Perspective
The Betrayed Partner Is Not Ready To Move Ahead So fast After a recommitment, the betrayer wants all the shame, regret and guilt to be left in the past.
Lesson 79: Suspicion – The Recovery
When You Decide to Trust Again, You Give Up The Right To Retaliate Long after the infidelity has been dealt with and when the marriage is absolutely back on track and the topic doesn’t get brought up anymore – what helps occasionally, (particularly if the wife never brings up the topic anymore – because she’s [...]