The Journey To Emotional Wealth Starts Here!

There’s a whole new way to live a stress free lifestyle today and it requires a whole new approach.  The new way of living without stress is heavily reliant on emotional wealth strategies that help you feel better about yourself and your relationships.  With emotional wealth strategies you have an advantage and are already riding the wave of those already enjoying reduced stress in their lives and happy relationships.  But there’s something else that’s required to succeed.

If you’re going to succeed in your personal life and in today’s competitive marketplace, you have to be different.

And if you’re going to achieve in your personal life and in today’s competitive marketplace, you have to act with your true identity.

It comes down to: people trust who you are, before they trust what you’re saying.  That’s true in every aspect of life, but it’s especially true in personal, family and business relationships.

People choose to be with people who make them feel good. And if you want others to choose to be with you, or be influenced by you, their choice to follow is preceded by trust. Trust is developed by you acting toward others in a predictable, collaborative way that respects the rights of others. The way you act is your true identity.

John Nirenburg, who has been an active interdisciplinary student of human behavior and leadership his entire life, wrote (2003) on building relationships: Usually, it is an interpersonal skill, a behavior that is expressed in such a way that it elicits our choice to follow, to be influenced, to admire unselfconsciously.

That sums up the whole art of building trust in relationships – It is my behavior (or response) toward another person that impacts most on their decision to trust me or to admonish me.

These are just some of the gems that we share in our emotional wealth self development system that will help you feel better about yourself and build trusting relationships.

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EmotionMatters – April, 2010

EmotionMatters Newsletter

28/4/10 Issue#2: Article – Difference between Aspergers & Autism

Publisher: Dr. Mike Gosling

In This Issue…

– Feature Article

— Emotion Secrets

– How Emotional Stuff Works

– Conversations With Karen

– Live Seminars

– Featured Product

– Activate Your Emotional Wealth Academy Membership

– Website Links And How To Submit Your Article

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EmotionMatters is the newsletter of the Emotional Wealth Academy providing articles, streaming videos, podcasts, audios, fact sheets, Q&A, counseling case studies, and much, much more ….

Feature Article

Difference Between Aspergers And Autism

One of the most often asked questions from parents is to have an explanation of the difference between Autism and Asperger’s Syndrome.

So here’s a brief explanation of the two conditions and what the main differences are.

Firstly Autism:

Autism is a spectrum disorder – which basically means that the signs and the severity of symptoms can vary significantly in each person. It usually begins at an early age (before 3) and causes delays to the normal development of skills.

The main areas in which autism symptoms can be seen are:

•   Communication – both verbal and non-verbal, such as eye contact, facial expressions and body language.

•   Social Behaviors – people with autism struggle with expressing emotions, relating to other peoples emotions and holding conversations. They have a tendency to withdraw from social interaction and can over-react to what we would consider a normal situation.

•   General Behaviors- repetition of actions, phrases and routines are common as are following strict organization patterns.

People with autism can also display abnormal sensory perception. For example, a normal volume noise may seem extremely loud and even painful to an autistic.

Physical interaction can also cause problems for an autistic child, they may dislike the feeling of being touched or will only allow themselves to be hugged in a certain way.

Autistic children also tend to favor rigid objects and toys such as metal cars rather than soft toys like teddy bears, some even show pain from touching a stuffed animal.

Smells may also cause problems with scents that are pleasant to you and I causing those with autism to gag.

It is not true that all individuals who develop autism show retardation.

Asperger’s Syndrome:

People with Asperger’s Syndrome display autistic characteristics like obsessive behaviors or lack of social and communication skills. And like autism, the level and severity of these signs will vary from person to person.

They do not show delayed skills. In fact, one of the symptoms of Asperger’s Syndrome is having a normal IQ. As a result, those with Asperger’s are sometimes called “higher-functioning” autistics.

Asperger’s is also usually noticed at a later age, with social and communication problems less severe than with autism. Verbal IQ tends to be higher than physical IQ and clumsiness is more common.

People with Asperger’s Syndrome usually have good language skills – However, their use of language can be awkward and speech patterns can be unusual, without inflection or changes in pitch or tone.

The subtleties of language, such as irony and humor can be lost on someone with Asperger’s and they may struggle to understand how a conversation should flow.

It is hard to generalize ASD ’s, but two main differences between Autism and Asperger’s seem to be:

1. People with Aspergers tend to have a normal or sometimes a high IQ.

2. There is no speech delay in people with Asperger’s.

There are many more resources and information about diagnosing, controlling and treating Autism in, The Essential Guide To Autism [ CLICK HERE ]

How Emotional Stuff Works

Q I don’t know… I suspect my wife has symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Is Gosling International effective in providing a solution for her, or is there someone else able to do a better job? Are the chances of recovery good?

A Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a condition with severe long-term implications for relationships as a person with BPD needs a lot of understanding and tolerance of their behaviors. Yes, Goslings is able to assist. Indeed we work already with several people suffering BPD.

Read More …

More expert advice on recognizing problem areas and dealing with a lack of emotional intimacy once your relationship deteriorates is available from Professional Counselor Karen Gosling.

Conversations With Karen

Is This Marriage Worth saving?

Many times in our lives we experience emotional difficulties and are unsure of how to move forward. Karen Gosling, an expert CBT counsellor, explores a common situation and offers insight as to how emotional wellbeing can be achieved.

Presenting Issue

John and Lisa agreed on counseling to help end their marriage amicably. Explaining that they no longer “got on”, frequently snapping at each other with rudeness and sarcasm, Lisa said that John no longer filled her emotional needs – to be loved, appreciated and cared for. John acknowledged he was working longer hours at the office to avoid going home and that he was feeling empty and in turmoil. Both said they felt “finished”.

Karen’s assessment

This couple had a combination of poor communication and unresolved past hurts. By improving communication and learning to talk safely about old hurts, there was a chance they could reconnect emotionally and restore intimacy.

Read more about the work done in counseling, the outcome, and Karen’s advice for moving forward [ CLICK HERE ]


Karen Gosling is a Professional Counselor and Mental Health Social Worker. She is a graduate of the University of South Australia and holds a Master of Public Health from the University of Adelaide. Karen is an accredited member of the Australian Association of Social Workers.

Karen provides face-to-face counseling consultations for individuals, couples, and family groups. If you want a professional to help you with behavioral change or deal with your emotional distress, personal problems, or are simply troubled by your feelings, phone Karen or Mike Gosling on 07 5564 7582 (International (617) 5564-7582).

Consulting Rooms (by appointment):

13 Valerie Street, Ashmore Queensland 4214 AustraliaMobile: 0413-750-699 (International (617) 5564-7582) Email Karen

Live Seminars

“Conversations With Karen” – Coming soon, Karen Gosling will lead you in this one-day seminar to increase your effectiveness in understanding and managing your stress.

For complete details and registration contact Karen Gosling.

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  • Meet thousands of other like-minded men and women who want to improve their lives?
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  • Share your ideas, beliefs, and concerns with thousands of Emotional Wealth Academy.com members and visitors?

If the answer to any of these questions is YES, then a 14-day Emotional Wealth Academy Membership is available for you for just $4.95! This is something Karen and Dr. Mike are really proud of. We believe it will help you make 2010 your best year yet! And this subscription membership site will be kept fresh with new content added each month. Take a sneak peak at the Emotional Wealth Secrets now. You will be able to join very soon!


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  • The Emotional Wealth Academy Blog is live with articles and posts by Dr. Mike and Karen Gosling and others. Looking for an experienced, caring, professional, empathic counselor? Start counseling today with expert cognitive-behavioral and emotional wealth counselor, Mrs Karen Gosling.
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Borderline Personality Disorder

A Learning Opportunity: Welcome to “How Emotional Stuff Works”. In this series of Q&A Karen Gosling expands upon questions that simply seek information and those that may trouble you. This is an important call-to-action for people wanting to stay well and have healthy relationships, and the answers are relevant no matter where you live in the world.

To have your question answered, send us an email.

Q I don’t know… I suspect my wife has symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Is Gosling International effective in providing a solution for her, or is there someone else able to do a better job? Are the chances of recovery good?

A Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a condition with severe long-term implications for relationships as a person with BPD needs a lot of understanding and tolerance of their behaviors. Yes, Goslings is able to assist. Indeed we work already with several people suffering BPD.

In essence, the person may exhibit no real symptoms for long periods of time, however, under stress, he or she may experience intense feelings of deprivation and insecurity, and be prone to periods of rage. This seriously affects intimate and social relationships. An important element in therapy is non-judgement while the person ventilates their feelings and perceptions of life. This is necessary before self-awareness can be gained, by gently confronting the person to see things from another’s perspective.

Effective treatment of BPD will often include a combination of medication and cognitive behavioral therapy to assist the person stabilize their mood-disturbance and increase tolerance of anxiety. To this end, we are frequently in contact with doctors, psychologists, and psychiatrists for purposes of referral to ensure the person receives the best holistic care.

As cognitive-behavioral counselors, Gosling International’s counselors helps clients identify events (memory, thoughts, values, beliefs, expectations) in their lives that generate pain or negative emotion (stress) and produce excess adrenalin in the body. We assist clients to understand the physiological effect of excess adrenalin on their body and through increased awareness of their identity help clients to better manage their emotion state.

Effective outcomes for counseling depend upon a number of variables including a person’s willingness and readiness to receive counseling, their current emotional state, and receptivity to taking medication. Cognitive behavioral counseling is effective to help a client discover and correct the cause of inappropriate behavior and can serve as an appropriate avenue for referral point to other more specific areas of mental health care identified by an experienced counselor.

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Archive for the ‘Emotional Wealth Lessons’ Category

LESSON #01: Understand Your Emotional Brain

Wednesday March 10th, 2010

In this first Emotional Wealth Secret we will look at what is the physical brain and how all information received by the brain forms our perceptions. Our appraisals cause the adrenalin arousals in our body which give rise to emotions felt in our body.

LESSON #02: Know Your Emotional Style

Wednesday March 10th, 2010

There are two emotional styles – avoidant and reactive. Regardless of your gender, you are more likely to display more of one style than the other. Read this Emotional Wealth Secret to find out which style explains your behavior.

LESSON #03: The Physiological Effects of Stress

Wednesday March 10th, 2010

The body manages well with an optimal level of stress. Adrenalin generated to the optimal level of stress is needed for alertness and clarity and for being on guard – fight or flight. For example, when your thoughts focus on pain perceived in the future, the resulting negative emotions of fear and anxiety could increase stress beyond the optimal level. This causes the body to produce adrenalin in excess of what the body needs. This emotional wealth secret helps us learn about what we do with excess adrenalin.

LESSON #04: The Anxious Personality

Wednesday March 10th, 2010

A person with an anxious personality experiences an overreaction to threatening stimuli in his or her environment, resulting in the body having a greater stress response than another person might have to the same event. The anxious person is less able to tolerate the normal uncertainties about the future and the “dangers” that may arise.

LESSON #05: Resolving Resentments – What Resolving Means

Wednesday March 10th, 2010

Resentment is a strong negative emotion that you experience when you remember or recall an incident from the past that caused an emotional pain at the time, which has never been resolved. Upon recalling the event, the body generates an emotion that can be described as anger or a feeling of being deeply upset. This emotion is a stress response. Emotional wealth secrets help us deal with our body’s stress response.

LESSON #06: Managing Conflict

Wednesday March 10th, 2010

Conflict occurs when you feel hurt (negative emotion) and you want to resolve the pain. It is no different to having a physical pain (cramp, headache, stubbing your toe) and wanting the pain to go away. Learn the emotional wealth secret to managing conflict.

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EmotionMatters Newsletter

EmotionMatters Newsletter

The free resources available from this page will improve your emotional well-being, boost your career, and develop your emotional skills. The articles, emotional wealth secrets, counseling case studies, and answers to your questions on how emotional stuff works will help you apply what you are learning to your own life situation. Our extensive resource library … including audio and video presentations … is available at our Emotional Wealth Secrets website.

EMOTIONMATTERS EZINE ARCHIVE >>

Articles:

  • Understand Your Emotional Brain

To perceive emotion is to receive and interpret information from both external (world) and internal (body) environments. Your senses – sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing – connect you to the world around you, through your physical brain. Read More…

  • The Physiological Effects of Stress

The body manages well with an optimal level of stress. Adrenalin generated to the optimal level of stress is needed for alertness and clarity and for being on guard – fight or flight. Read more …

  • Know Your Emotional Style

There are two emotional styles – avoidant and reactive. Regardless of your gender, you are more likely to display more of one style than the other. Read more …

  • Resolving Resentments

Resentment is a strong negative emotion that you experience when you remember or recall an incident from the past that caused an emotional pain at the time, which has never been resolved. Read more …

  • Anxious Personality

A person with an anxious personality experiences an overreaction to threatening stimuli in his or her environment, resulting in the body having a greater stress response than another person might have to the same event. The anxious person is less able to tolerate the normal uncertainties about the future and the “dangers” that may arise. Read more …

  • Managing Conflict

Conflict occurs when you feel hurt (negative emotion) and you want to resolve the pain. It is no different to having a physical pain (cramp, headache, stubbing your toe) and wanting the pain to go away. Read more …

Read More Articles >>

Emotional Wealth Secrets:

  • Effective Communication Framework

Learn and use the XYZ communication model and build relationships. Read More…

  • Borderline Personality Disorder

The person suffering a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is usually female. If you are related to or involved in a relationship with a Borderline Personality (BP) you will often feel as thought you are walking on eggshells. Read More…

  • The Housemate Syndrome

Are you living together like housemates? Feel taken for granted and not really in a loving relationship? What happens when you blame your partner for what happens to you – nothing! Read More…

  • The Highly Sensitive Person – HSP

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) really do exist! In fact they make up about 20 per cent of the population. That question: “Whatever is the matter with you?” can finally be answered. The secret trait you thought of all your life as a flaw, is a flaw no longer. Read More…

  • Normal Trauma Reactions

You have experienced a traumatic event (an injury, loss of a loved one or property, or a serious threat, or any overwhelming emotional experience). Even though the event may be completed, you may now be experiencing, or may experience later, some strong emotional or physical reactions. It is very common, in fact quite normal, for people to experience emotional aftershocks when they have passed through an horrible event. Read More…

  • The Narcissist

The narcissist requires excessive admiration, attention, and affirmation, or failing that wishes to be feared. Such feedback is known as narcissistic supply and the narcissist uses others’ reaction to him to regulate his sense of self-worth. Read More…

Read More Emotional Wealth Secrets >>

Conversations With Karen – Counseling Case Studies:

  • Is This Marriage Worth Saving

Relationships fail for three main reasons: 1) Unresolved hurts, 2) Ineffective communication, and 3) Not giving and receiving love according to one’s needs. Learn about a couple experiencing communication difficulties. Read More…

  • Rage Against The Machine – Kids In Crisis

Parents often feel exasperated or bewildered when their child suddenly starts exhibiting anger or rage. They question what, as parents, they’re doing wrong. Read More…

  • Banish Low Self-Esteem

Counseling was a critical intervention in a vicious cycle of poor self-esteem, negative feelings and depression. Read More…

Read More Case Studies >>

How Emotional Stuff Works:

  • How Can I Trust My Cheating Husband?

    Two years ago my husband left me for another woman. After a month he begged to come home. I missed him. And he was a good father – so I took him back. He is now faithful, but I find it hard to be close to him physically. How can I trust him again? Read more …

  • No Affection

I’ve been married for 12 years and we have three children aged nine, seven and three. We both seem to be tired all the time. I love my husband and would not want to be with anyone else. Yet I don’t seem to want to be affectionate with him anymore. When he touches me it irritates me and I pull away. He must feel so rejected. What’s wrong with me? Read more …

  • Panic Disorder

I’m suffering from panic attacks. They started two years ago and I felt I was going crazy. I’ve tried seeing a few doctors but still the sensation of fear came when I stopped medication. I am sick and tired of taking medicine because I plan to have a baby soon. Please help. Read more ...

Read More on How Emotional Stuff Works >>

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Dr. Mike and Karen Gosling welcome you to the Emotional Wealth Academy and EASEQuadrant® . Want to learn how to understand the cause of your feelings, improve your mood, and feel better than you do right now? You know, it’s never been easier to choose emotional wealth! Would you like to “hang out” with two experts in emotions every month and use our 30+ years of experience in building emotional wealth to stay well and create the relationships you never thought possible? Would you benefit from free resources designed to help you deal with behavioral change, emotional distress and personal problems, or are you simply troubled by your feelings?

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